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Revenge as a Motivation for Abusive Parents

Published by davinci on June 21, 2010 in autobiography and personal. 6 Comments Tags: , , , , .

As I have alluded to in my previous post, I’m current reading Alice Miller‘s For Your Own Good[1].

(Coincidentally, she passed away just a few days before I wrote that post, although I didn’t know about this at the time.)

I’m only about half way through the book, but one particular idea really struck me, and I wanted to write something about it. It’s so obvious in retrospect, and explains so much about the behaviour of my biological parents towards me throughout my life, that I’m shocked that I hadn’t thought of it earlier myself… » [Expand post] [Permalink]

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Alice Miller and Children of Trauma

Published by davinci on April 18, 2010 in social issues. 4 Comments Tags: , , , , , , .

I’m currently reading several books by Alice Miller, an author and researcher whose focus is on child abuse and mistreatment.

When I was growing up, I’ve always felt that my parents were not like other people’s parents. I wish I had known about and had access to books like those written by Miller, who relate the stories of people like myself. I guess they must have always been available at the library, but I had never thought to look for such books until recent years.

It’s a tremendous relief to have someone explain what I have gone through… » [Expand post] [Permalink]

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